ooh I do have one more thing to say.

when a relationship becomes a burden whichever way you look at it, how do you deal with it?

don't worry, nothing happened. well nothing life-changing or anything. nothing immensely serious, la. let's just say I was just being very pensive on the way home today.

oh yea, I'm not just limiting this to boy-girl issues by the way, that just seems so shallow at the moment.

relationships are never supposed to be a burden to you, right? I mean obviously, when you choose to forge a friendship with someone, you're obligated to hang out with that person and be there for that person, but it doesn't seem like something to add to your to-do list, it's just natural that you would do the things necessary to maintain that relationship.

but if somewhere along the way, you start to feel pressurized to do these things, that it's not so much a voluntary act anymore, how do you deal with it?

obviously the question of why it's not so much a voluntary act anymore comes to mind.. what if the answer is, "we're just different, sometimes we're not even on the same wavelengths, and lately it's been getting harder and harder to maintain a conversation with him/her."

then what? I mean the person is a friend, and well friends have to do what friends are supposed to do. hang out, have fun, crack jokes, confide in one another, that sort of stuff.. but if you don't feel like you enjoy doing those things anymore, what do you do? and it's not because you don't 'like' the person, it's because you don't feel like there's anything much to talk about recently.. very sad ):

on the one hand, not doing those things could hurt the person's feelings, but on the other hand... you would really rather not fake enjoying the connection anymore..

the lesser of two evils?

tell me it's not just me being mean that's making me see this particular relationship as a burden ):